My husband and I moved from one town to another recently, from a house of many stairs to a one-story of similar but slightly smaller size. It was a move we chose to make and have been planning for quite some time.
I figured that after 29 years in the same house a move would have its challenges but I wasn’t at all prepared for the series emotional earthquakes and aftershocks I ended up dealing with.
A volatile housing market and a dearth of inventory prompted us to seal the deal on the new house rather quickly after nearly a year of looking, looking, looking. Think of the worst possible case of buyer’s remorse and you have an idea of my state of mind for the first few weeks after we moved in. I’m talking panic attacks in the middle of the night and rabid brain fog during the day. Anxiety and Regret moved into the driver’s seat of my life and Resentment took a window seat.
Where we put our focus is what expands, right? Every day, in every way, my focus was drawn to what wasn’t working about the new house. So many things! Not surprisingly the more problems I noticed, the worse I felt about the house we’d chosen.
If only we’d kept looking. If only we’d looked at this house more carefully before making the offer. If only the Bay Area housing market wasn’t so crazy. If only we could have figured out a way to put in an elevator in our old house. If only …
I now recognize “if only” as two of the most toxic words in the English language. The problem wasn’t the house, it was my focus. I was poisoning myself. The stress of this big change dysregulated me back into an old pattern of victimhood and suffering. It’s a state of being that used to define my life; thankfully I’m no longer comfortable spending much time there. Another big move was in order, this one involving my focus and attention.
I intentionally began shifting my thoughts toward gratitude as often as I could. I acknowledged the Anxiety, Regret, Resentment and lovingly asked them to leave my bus. Honestly it felt like I was turning a light on in a dark room. Relatively quickly the sense of loss over leaving the many great aspects of our previous home softened and the aperture of my vision widened to include the many great aspects of our new home. I even found myself taking the plethora of unexpected but necessary repairs more in stride.
Guess what? What we put our focus on is what expands. Energy follows thought. Gratitude can indeed wire us for happiness. Trust me, I know whereof I speak.
“If only” landscapes come in all shapes and sizes and can really rob us of our joy in the now. Difficulty letting go of an ideal, longing for a baby, grappling with anxiety on airplanes or freeways, facing a difficult medical diagnosis – these are just some examples of situations that can lock us into negativity and emotional pain. Let me know if you, your child or teen could use some help changing the view. I’m fresh from practice doing so myself.
Until next month, remember: All is moving toward the Good.
A Higher Perspective
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